I wish we would still see each other next year. There's a really big turning point in my life at the end of this year and If I don't get throught I really don't know what might happen. Frightened to even think about it.
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I wish we would still see each other next year. There's a really big turning point in my life at the end of this year and If I don't get throught I really don't know what might happen. Frightened to even think about it.
No. Not yet, at least.
I will loose my current job the 1st of january and I need find a job now. Problem is that I've been searching for some time now and nothing.
I'm frightened about it because I don't have alot of time left and I should take any meanial job tossed in my way. But I don't because I;m too scared of change. I can't overcome my fears without going through a massive shock on my part.
Anyway, If I don't make this happen, I'm pretty much screwed.
You have a college degree and know a fuckton of stuff about software and networking, so what's scaring you so much? I don't even know how to turn the computer on, and I have a great IT job with a raise just around the corner now. And if I lost it (the job, not my sanity), I'd be sad for a while, then soak it and look for something. Which eventually would arrive. No need to get so upset, panic or treat this as a major disaster that will shatter your reality forever. You'll get through.
Also, I had to take a detour from my usual path to work today. On my way, I passed through a fast food joint I used to frequent 4-5 years back, and ordered an orange milkshake because I was able to, had the money, and I dare you to stop me :gcreepy: (It tasted awesome, by the way)
Something I find it puzzling that some people say "I miss when I was %d years old because everything seemed possible", when more things are actually possible now.
you'll get through regardless of what the outcome may be ('to get through' means 'to keep on existing')Quote:
Originally Posted by Master Razor
the rest was well covered by anon's post
...and what do i keep mentioning about worrying?
...and as expected, rarely anyone listens... :P
they were young & inexperienced then, at the time it seemed like there are numerous possibilities how something might happen or what could be achieved or what they wanted to try out,... but it was all theoretical - the practical outcome proved otherwiseQuote:
Originally Posted by anon
the current situation is no different in this sense, what differs is the amount of variations out there (specific to the current age), which makes it seem like somehow many more things can be achieved, but the time limit hasn't changed, the way practical outcomes work hasn't changed, their purpose hasn't changed,... - you might spend more time trying out, comparing and deciding, untangling the mess, than actually getting things done (more = less?)
in other words, practically, your path covers only a fraction of the available paths/area during one lifetime - it matters not if in the meantime the available area got much bigger (say, due to globalization), if the various different experiences along these paths became numerous (say, due to consumerism running amok) - your path can still cover only a fraction just like it did before
and (much) later on the next generations will yet again wonder how anon's or earlier generations miss their early days, when soon the hyper nu-age is so close to providing the ultimate experience out there ;)
the more things change (on the outside, appearance), the more they stay the same (on the inside, essence)
U'll get through Razor . U r talened man.. The best :) Good luck mate
Hard story: The only way of getting over fear of change, which actually is a common fear, is by going through changes and accepting them.
what if they did not happen yet, as in 'fear of possible changes' or 'fear of future changes'?Quote:
Originally Posted by Sazzy
you just described a way of getting over the fear of change (that happened)Quote:
Originally Posted by anon
lets see it from another angle:Quote:
Originally Posted by Sazzy
it could be said that he is coping in his own personal/subjective way, in the best way he can regarding the situation and his 'state of mind': anger (fck them), resentment (use it begrudgingly), acceptance (until you've forgotten), ie. 'not coping' means 'not coping like a pro', like an idealized version of him would (if it existed outside of theoretical considerations), thus whatever coping practically happens is the only practically available way for this person to cope with the situation at that particular moment in time with those particular conditions surrounding the event (and all the involved acteurs)
short version: in both cases he is coping with his fear of change as good as he can
universal version: in every case he is coping with whatever comes his way as good as he can
Yesterday night I called someone who was selling a really cheap Quantum 52 MB hard drive, to agree on a meeting time and place.
Today's the day I was to buy it.
Firstly, I went to my office and left all non-required valuables there, behind a locked door. Then, I was going to walk to my destination as I always do, but it was 6km and I didn't have much time. So I took the subway.
I arrived at the place just in time. It was an ice cream parlor in the corner of a small street and an important avenue. Stood there waiting. Five minutes passed. Ten minutes passed. Fifteen minutes passed.1 Then, this woman arrives and freezes on her tracks. She was holding this white plastic bag. It was almost opaque, but seemed to have the hard drive inside. Unfortunately, she looked like she was going to shank me in the neck with a palette knife as soon as I took out my wallet(?), so I took no action. Thought she would notice me and maybe ask if I was the buyer, if she was actually interested in selling the thing. But a few minutes later, she left. I shrugged, decided I didn't really want the disk anyway, then used the money originally meant for it to buy a banana milkshake. Sadly, it wasn't very sweet and the cup's size was smaller than in the place where I bought the orange one :wfrown:
Rode the subway again. There's this guy giving away candy and a card that reads "just for paying attention, you get some free candy! Now would you help me in return?". I gave both back. The guy deserves points for his creativity, but I don't like psychological tricks.
There is this park they built last year a few blocks down from work. Had never actually visited it, so I did.
Back at my office. It's nearly the end of the school year, so there's very little to do right now, and my friend couldn't come because she had to look after a sick relative (we did chat online for a while, though), so I did pretty much nothing until I left. I think I'll take a PS/2-to-USB adapter so that I can use our KVM switch and read all my laptop's open tabs comfortably if this happens again.
Message ends.
1 = all three statements are in relation to a fixed point in time, and not additive
TL looked oh so great until they changed it.